As I was scrolling through Instagram this morning I came across a wonderful post regarding recovery month. The post was speaking straight to my soul in just a few sentences. My favorite kind of writing! To sum up the post quickly, she was stating that she never really labeled herself “in recovery” during her sobriety.
Words that I immediately can relate to! While I appreciate what works for thousands of people around the world - I have never been one to believe in the whole:
None of these lines ever spoke true to me. None of them ever made me feel good about myself, or made me feel like I was actually proud of my path. Labels are thrown around on our culture like cocktails at happy hour. They are everywhere you turn, that you have probably become almost numb to it. From diets, keto, paleo, vegan - to granola, crunchy and natural Mom’s. Everyone wants to throw a label on you and put you in a category. Your small box of expected traits.
Can I Ask For What?
What does that label provide for you? What does it signify to you? If we are all equal in this life and no one is better than another than why are we always throwing around labels?
These are my thoughts that always seems to come through anytime I find myself in a situation of label logic.
What this post did for me is something that I have done over and over again in my life. It reframed my reality. It reframed the way I was looking at something as simple as a word recovery.
Quote from post @authenticallyamanda
“…But then aren’t any of us who choose the path of healing, growth and enlightenment in constant recovery from the effects of a world that would have us believe that there is something outside of us that could be the source of our happiness?”
Wow. There is a mind shift for you! Anyone on a path of self improvement is in a state of recovery! #mindblown
Recovery in it’s textbook definition can be defined in these two ways:
1. A return to a normal state of health, mind, or strength.
2. The action or process of regaining possession or control of something stolen or lost.
Anyone who is taking the time to seek out what can improve their life is in a state of recovery by definition.
Anyone who is taking the action into regaining control of their lives when something has taken them off course is in a state of recovery.
So while our culture has made the word recovery into one who describes an addict who has made a huge decision to quit their drug of choice- recovery is quite simply improvement.
When we slow down and stop labeling each other in whatever the context may be, a strange thing happens and you begin to just see a soul.
A soul that is doing the best they can. A person that has overcome their own demons, and someone who is authentically looking for acceptance and love.
Each person has good in them once you drop the illusions your ego has built up for you over the years. Instead of putting those in recovery into a box of an “ex-addict”, let’s drop the label and truly see them as person doing better for themselves and for those around them.
Next time you catch yourself in the judgmental social game of - What category does she fall into? Why don’t you push it aside for a moment and see the soul before you and not the culturally engrained definition.
Recovery Is Just A Word.
One that makes some feel strong, and some embarrassed. By throwing out the label and realizing the only thing that truly matters is your own happiness in this life, you can let go of how you are defined by it.
Those of you on a sober journey, spiritual path, or even in the “Who the F am I?”phase…
I invite you to drop you illusions, perceptions and predetermined judgments on those around you and choose to see love.
Each day we are given a choice on how we look at the world. Choose to see the good in all that come into your path because truly the only one who will ever make you fully complete is yourself. Be kind. Share encouragement. And give yourself the grace of looking at how far you have come over the years.
We are all recovering even if it is not from alcohol, or drugs - it may be deep engrained cultural beliefs or habits. Seeking self improvement makes you a warrior, a super hero and far more at peace with yourself. Wherever you are in your journey today, keep going. You are doing an amazing job!
Think on it...
"Life is an illusion created by your perception, and it can be changed the moment you choose to change it."